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Slut Fiona posted in the group Questions and Answers
My wife and I are novices when it comes to stretching pussy. Right now, she’s only capable of a 21cm stretch, which is nothing, but we want to go much bigger. What would be a good next step up in size to really give her cunt a workout, but also not be so big that we might risk a tear or other injury? Also, how long do you reccomend between stretching? Any advice or shared experiences are welcome.
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We started out with the first dildo on the left (black strap on) which is about 14cm in circumference. Nothing big. It’s actually only slightly bigger than my actual penis. I got it partially as a joke for her birthday earlier this year, but after a few months of gathering dust she wanted to try it for fun. We almost acted like it was a big joke, but he dildo worked beautifully and she took to it like a seal to water. I’ve known my wife for over twenty years, and I’ve seen her have every kind of orgasm, and I watched her have one of her best. She loved it! She loved feeling her cunt be stretched.
So, sensing an unspoken fetish and being the good husband I am, I then bought the dildo in the middle about two weeks ago. (I’ll explain the third one later in the post) This middle one has a 16cm circumference. A bit bigger and longer. Gives her a nice stretch. I’ve banged that one in and out of her cunt with a frenzy multiple times now, about once a day almost, and she loves it even more than the first one. What’s nice is that her cunt opens up like a flower and just accepts the new bigger one without much of a fuss. I was careful the first few times and used the smaller dildo as a warmup, but she doesn’t need it.
After all that play, she’s gotten a bit sore during the last few days. So were both trying to give her pussy a break, but she keeps getting horny and wanting it again lol. I’ve tried to cool her jets a bit and told her to wait. Yesterday I just put the middle dildo in and made her cum with a vibrator, but I made sure that the toy stayed in so she’d get the stretch. I’ve also begun to notice that she rolls her hips and pushes down against the dildo when she’s horny, like she wants more.
I’ve tried putting a few fingers in next to the middle dildo, but they just don’t fit and I don’t want to force anything. Dildos have reinvigorated our sex life and I’m not going to risk turning my wife off it by accidentally hurting her. I think she’s done pretty good for someone who’s a novice and only been doing this three weeks.
Also, keep in mind that my wife has always been extremely tight. To the point where sex could be painful for us. She often felt like she was being torn open, and I felt like I was trying to shove my penis in a pinhole. She’s always been tight like a virgin, even after 20+ years of marriage. So having her become a little loose because of the dildo play is like heaven. I just slide right in now and her pussy gives me a gentle massage. It’s SO nice for both of us.
As for the third dildo. The big inflatable one on the left, we haven’t tried yet. It’s WAY too big. I bought that thinking that it inflated to 20cm of circumference, but it STARTS at 20cm of circumference lol. When my wife saw it, her eyes got wide and she just smiled. So I’m really convinced she has a fetish lol. Far be it from me to stop her. That said, I doubt we’ll be getting to that one anytime soon, but I wouldn’t be surprised if by this time next year she could swallow that thing whole.
Real quick question? What brand of lube do you all use? The local KY stuff we have here is garbage. You have to use half a bottle for any serious play and it gets expensive. I’d rather spend money on better lube.
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I adore the visual aid! Thank you so much for sharing. Can’t wait for her to ‘open door number 3’ Thanks so much for your explanation and story. It’s so hot to think about what you two are getting up to!
It doesn’t surprise me that KY isn’t doing it for you. I tend to use it as a last resort because it’s the least likely to be harmful or cause a reaction, but often just barely adequate.
For silicone toys, which it looks like these are, maybe try a natural oil-based lube. You can try coconut oil for starters, which seems fairly easy to find these days. I find it a little hard to work with because it sort of clumps until it warms up. A lube called Boy Butter is an homogenized version of the same thing that might be worth investigating. Rich and creamy, it feels luxurious by comparison. I tend to use fewer toys and more skin to skin contact so I really like silicone lubes like Swiss Navy but it’s super expensive. It works for jelly rubber or PVC toys so maybe that would be OK? The only thing to avoid is silicone-based lubes with silicon toys because they can degrade the toy over time. Ask the attendant at the sales counter when you’re buying toys to double check if you have compatible lube, if you’re not sure.
PM me for more, if you really want to chat.
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Slut Fiona
We are a married couple who've discovered that we have a Size Queen kink, and are indulging fully in it. We seek out like minded people who've progressed past us for guidance.
Currently, she can take a dildo that's roughly 18cm long and has a 16cm circumference. Not much, but it slides in like butter. Not bad for a beginner!
Hello and welcome! It’s nice to have you here. I’ll do my best to answer your question. I hope we see lots more of you both (but especially your wife 😆)
The best duration of time between stretching sessions is the length time it takes to stop hurting. I find it’s hard at the start to know how much damage any given exercise will do so best to keep asking ‘does this hurt’ and when the answer is an uncomfortable yes, then stop. Your wife will probably be sore for hours or possibly days. When the soreness goes away, that’s your time to get back into it. As time goes on, the amount of soreness will decrease so you can increase the frequency of stretching. For some people, it takes months of training, for others, years.
When I started fisting my partners, I often couldn’t get my whole hand in the first time. I needed to refine my technique and she needed to relax at the idea of having such a huge penetration. I also neglected good quality lube when we started so that worked against us too. Experiment with different kinds to find out what works for you. Water based lubes for example, are cheap and plentiful but often dry quickly, meaning you need to use more if you’re taking your time.
Speaking of which, you need to take your time. Stretching skin is a time-consuming process. It needs lots of blood flow and moisture to make it happen. Be patient and don’t rush. Make sure you’re having fun and don’t rush to meet goals right away. Inflatable toys give you the option of increasing size gradually, and fingers/hands are a good option too.
If you don’t mind my asking, what have you tried so far?